High competence. Quiet depletion.
Depth-oriented individual therapy for men navigating depression, relationships, identity, and the pressures that rarely get named.
How I Work ↓"Most men are subjective toward themselves and objective toward others. The problem is to be the opposite."
— Søren Kierkegaard
Men are often conditioned to manage rather than explore — to fix the problem, not feel it. This creates a particular kind of suffering: high competence, quiet depletion. The questions that matter most go unasked for years. Depth-oriented therapy for men is not about reframing or learning communication skills. It is about making contact with what has been avoided — the grief beneath the anger, the longing beneath the withdrawal, the parts of oneself that were learned to be unacceptable.
Present-moment contact — in the body, in the room, between us. What arises here is real data about how you move in the world.
The internal patterns, the parts of yourself you haven't had language for. Understanding rather than correcting what's been organized inside.
The body knows things the mind hasn't named yet. We pay attention to where the breath goes, what tightens, what holds.
Not more emotion or less — but more access to what is actually present, and more choice about what to do with it.
The capacity for genuine contact — with a partner, a child, a friend — tends to increase as the inner life becomes more available.
The exhaustion of maintaining the performance is significant. As the performance becomes less necessary, energy is freed.
Who you are when the work stops defining you. What you actually want. These questions become available when the noise quiets.
A real conversation — not a form, not a questionnaire. No commitment required.
An unhurried intake. Your history, what brings you here, how you make sense of things.
Regular 50-minute sessions. In-person in Palo Alto or telehealth throughout California.
A Good Place Therapy · Palo Alto · Supervised by Christina Miller-Martinez, LMFT #105663
My training at CIIS, combined with Gestalt and somatic approaches, gives me a framework for depth-oriented work that goes beneath insight — to what is actually organizing the pattern.
Full biography →Most men who come to therapy are functioning well by external standards. Depth-oriented therapy is not for people who can't cope — it's for people who want to understand themselves more fully.
Most men I work with aren't accustomed to this kind of conversation. Part of the work is developing the capacity for it. We go at whatever pace your system allows.
Yes. A significant portion of my work involves exactly this — men who want to show up differently in their relationships. We work with what's happening internally, not just talking about what's happening externally.
Yes — in-network with. Superbills available for other PPO plans.
Both. In-person at A Good Place Therapy, 667 Lytton Ave, Suite #9, Palo Alto. Telehealth available throughout California.
A free 15-minute consultation is a low-pressure way to see if this is the right fit. Many men find this the hardest step — and also the most important one.
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